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Husbands – Love Your Wives

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church – a love marked by giving, not getting. The Message

profileToday is the one week warning to all men – whether you have a wife – a girlfriend – or a daughter.  Valentine’s Day is one week from today – February 14th.  From a man that has lived the last 33 plus years of my life in a home filled with only women – I’m suggesting – I’m warning – I’m giving insight – don’t forget Valentine’s Day.

A card would be nice – a nice start – for all of the women in your life (see above).  After the card you might want to think of the main woman in your life (wife/girlfriend) and what she might appreciate.  Some might like to go out to dinner (not McDonald’s or even Panera Bread).  Some place nice – maybe a place where you have to make a reservation (which shows you had to do more than show up for the evening).  If you go out for dinner – try to dress up some – like if you were meeting someone important at work.  Know your wife/girlfriend.  Take the time to plan ahead and show them how important they are to you.  Know their love language and talk to them in it!

If she doesn’t like chocolates – don’t buy her a box that you will end up eating – but a small gift would be nice.  What would she appreciate?  I’m not talking about a diamond or something from Jared’s.  Maybe the woman in your life would appreciate dedicated time for them – to either be with them – focused on them (and not the TV or your computer) – or taking care of the children so that they could have some free time (not on Valentine’s Day).  Maybe a group of coupons – saying things like good for one night out – or – good for one free night while I take care of things at home – or – good for one massage.  Just a few ideas.  Again – this is your warning guys – get it done and be prepared for February 14th – Valentine’s Day.

I know that Valentine’s Day is for us too – we like to be remembered and loved.  Chances are our women don’t need to be reminded and they will have something planned for sure.  Let me say here that most relationships struggle because the guy in the relationship isn’t very good at relationships (did I say relationship enough in this sentence?)!  In nearly 40 years of ministry and 33 ½ years of marriage – I can with all honesty say that most marital issues (not all) can be laid at the feet of the man in the relationship (there I said it again).

Women (most of them) are professionals at relationships.  They are just wired that way.  They love (again – most of them) to connect with people and build relationships.  It seems that men (most of them) are better at being loners.  Feel free to disagree with me – I’m just talking from my observations and experience.

Biblically I believe men are called to place their spouse on a pedestal of sorts.  We are called to love them more than we love ourselves.  We are to treasure them.  We are to think of their needs and what is best for them.   Today’s passage – from The Message translation of the Bible says – Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church – a love marked by giving, not getting.  Ephesians 5:25  In the ESV translation of the Bible it says it this way – Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, Ephesians 5:25

Men – Christ loved the church – His bride – with His all.  He gave His life for the church.  He left heaven for the church.  He faced the cross for the church.  That is the kind of love – that is the kind of expression of care – we are called to show our wives.  I’m not saying I have always shown that kind of love – far from it at times – but that is the direction we’re given in the Bible.  Think about it and don’t forget Valentine’s Day – February 14th.

Just something to think about today as you go on your way.

February 7, 2014 - Posted by | Church, Community, Daily Devotion, Discipleship, Encouragement, Faith Journey, Family, From the Pastor, Leadership, Marriage, Outreach, Personal, Theology | , , , , , , , ,

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