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Marriage: What is God’s Plan for Marriage?

Genesis 2:23-24

23 The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” 24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.

IMG_0301God has a plan for marriage.  Today we begin a series – again – not consecutive blog posts in a row – but a series on marriage.  We need to study what God says about marriage.  Especially is this day and age when some are trying to redefine marriage.  God’s plan for marriage can be found in the Bible – not in the laws of the land.  When God was creating the universe He created man and woman.  When the woman (Eve) was created and brought to man (Adam) – he exclaimed this is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh.

One of the things I get from this passage is that a husband should see his wife as part of him – bone of his bone – flesh of his flesh.  The wedding vows talk about the two becoming one and that nothing is to divide them.  Husbands should consider their wives to be part of them – part of their very self.  They are partners and connected in ways that God has designed.

You know – I was once very fit – believe it or not.  I was lean and mean – so to speak.  I could run all day – officiating sports all day long at times – I could bench press more than I weighed (that would be a feat today).  But part of me – my hunger – and my lack of will power in this area – began to eat away at the shape I had and gave me the shape I have now (although I have started to improve my shape of late).  My shape is part of me – I changed my shape through my desires within me.  I cannot just get rid of me – I need to work on me to make me better – work on my shape to make it better.

When I married my wife – it was by freewill.  No one forced me – no one coerced me to get married.  She became flesh of my flesh – bone of my bone – part of me.  If our relationship is not perfect – or not what it once was – or not what we would like it to be – I cannot jettison part of me – but rather my wife and I must work together to strengthen our marriage.  She is part of me – we are part of each other.

If more men had this mindset – there would be less divorce and less marital problems.  I hate to place it on men – but most marriage issues (not all) are fixable if men would understand and operate in their marriage as the Bible tells us.

I realize that if part of my body had cancer I wouldn’t hesitate to cut it off if by removing it I could save the body – my life.  And I realize that some partners change over the years and become a cancer in the body of marriage.  But as with my human body – cutting it out or off would be the last resort after trying to defeat the cancer and saving the body part.  Too many people see divorce as the only way to fix a broken marriage.  If more men and women would understand that when they marry they become one body – they might treat one another differently – and take more care to heal the wounds that attack their marriage.

Just something to think about today as you go on your way.


March 23, 2015 - Posted by | Church, Community, Daily Devotion, Discipleship, Encouragement, Faith Journey, Family, From the Pastor, Leadership, Lenten Thought, Marriage, Personal, Theology | , , , , , , , , , ,

1 Comment »

  1. It only took me MANY years to find that soul mate and make that commitment.
    Just shows it’s never too late.


    Comment by snoyes4310 | March 23, 2015 | Reply

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