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Do Not Exasperate Your Child

Ephesians 6:1-4

1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother” – which is the first commandment with a promise – 3 “that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

82015 RayAs we continue to look at these verses – today we will begin to look at the final verse. Here is what verse 4 says – Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

For a long time – as I was growing up – I wasn’t sure what exasperate meant.  I had to look it up in the dictionary.  Doing that today produces a definition for exasperate as follows: to excite the anger of – according to the Merriam-Webster online dictionary.  In the KJV the word used where NIV uses exasperate is provoke – In NEB it is goad to resentment.

According to John Macarthur Jr. (Successful Christian Parenting): the children’s duty in the home is to obey.  The parent’s duty: to teach them that obedience in an environment of godly nurturing, without exasperating them in the process.

One commentary said that a parent’s job is to train their children in the ways of the Lord without bringing them to exasperation or frustration.  In a world where EVERYTHING in our children’s environment seems to be pulling them away from God – training them in righteousness is not only against their sin nature – but it is against the grain of society as well.

Two forces are better combined than two a part – so the family and the church need to partner together to help train up the next generation in a loving way – a way that will lead them to love Jesus – instead of resenting the Lord – their parents – and the church.

Just something to think about today as you go on your way.


October 1, 2015 - Posted by | Build, Community, Daily Devotion, Discipleship, Encouragement, Faith Journey, Family, From the Pastor, Leadership, Marriage, Personal, Theology | , , , , , , , , , ,

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