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Men – Look at the Calendar! NOW!

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting. The Message

img_0063-2Valentine’s Day is just 1 day away. This is a warning devotional for men who might need the reminder. After 40 plus years with my wife I write with some experience. What do we plan to do this year men? By the time this devotional goes out – I will have already taken my sweetie to dinner with some treats presented at dinner.

Traditionally – Valentine’s Day is a holiday where men are supposed to show their love and affection for the women in their lives. So men – what do we have planned? If nothing is planned yet – this is our last warning to get something planned – ASAP. The following are some thoughts. If you are a woman reading this – you might want to print it for the man in your life!

In The Message – we read from Paul’s Epistle today’s passage: Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting.

Here’s a plan for February 14th – just a suggestion or two! Start by getting a nice card – it can be store-bought or homemade. If you have little ones – get a sitter for the evening of the 14th or a night you plan to celebrate this holiday (my wife and I went our on February 12th since our schedules conflicted with the 14th – and we don’t like the crowds on the actual day. Make a reservation – better call today – you may have to call a few places to find an opening at this late date. Make it a nice restaurant (McDonald’s will not cut it – doesn’t have to be the Chart House (one of our favorites) or Ruth’s Chris Steak House – but something nice). Buy something – it doesn’t need to be from Zales! You could buy some flowers – a small box of candies – or a piece of jewelry – something! Bring it with you to the dinner – or have it delivered while you’re having dinner. The key here is that you get the sitter – you make the reservation – you go out of your way to purchase something for her. Most women aren’t so concerned with what you get them – rather they are impressed when you take the time to plan a nice evening with them – and you take the initiative to take care of all the details. One last thought – leave your phone in the car or in your pocket all evening!!

If you want to do something on a larger scale – offer to do the housework for a week (unless you typically do this and if so – pick something else) or better yet – make a small promise booklet that might have anywhere from a dozen to two dozen promise notes/coupons. They could say: good for one night out–anytime – or good for a night/weekend out with the girls–I’ll take care of the children. Be creative and have her in mind – not you – when you make the coupons – what would be a special gift for her.

Think with me for a moment – how much energy and time have we spent planning a hunting trip? Planning a golf outing? Planning a business trip? Spend that much time and energy – maybe even more – on this Valentine’s Day. If the 14th is not a good night – plan it for another day or the weekend following – but plan it ahead of time and let her know you have a special night planned. Make a CD or upload your iPod with her favorite music on it to play in the car to and from the dinner and for time back at home (children already in bed or at grandmother’s for the evening). Sit around and talk – at the restaurant – in the car – NO cell phone – computer – TV interruptions. Spend the time focused on her and her happiness. DO NOT have any ulterior motives! I mean it! Simply spend an evening where she is the focus of your time and energy.

Men – read me when I say that the majority of marital issues – in my 45 years of counseling – are because wives feel taken for granted. They feel like housekeepers – maids and a mistress – rather than a partner for life whose opinions count and are of value. They often do not feel like they are second in our lives – right behind God! Too often they feel like they rank – if they rank at all – beneath our hobbies – our jobs – football on TV – in other words the things we show them with our time are important to us.

Here is another point – don’t do this only on Valentine’s Day. If you both work outside the home – share the home chores. Help take care of the children – prepare some of the meals or clean up after the meals. Work together so that you both have time to sit and read the paper or talk to one another. Honor your wife and your life will go well for you!

Here is today’s Scripture in context:  Ephesians 5:25-28 – 25 Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church — a love marked by giving, not getting. 26 Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, 27 dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. 28 And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor — since they’re already “one” in marriage. The Message

Just something for us to think about today as we go on our way.

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